I wanna see everyone comment back on this one cause I am in need of serious advice! My Big Dude has been having trouble doing what mommy asks. And daddy too, for that matter. And then some. It started about the same time as school so I have all kinds of theories about it just being the transisition to kindergarten and so many new rues and a blossoming sense of independence but I need some advice on what to do about it! I'll use today as an example. He came home from school and relaxed a little and then wanted to go out and swim with the neighbor kids in their pool. I said no because if he did, Isaac would want to and I thought it might be too deep. So I compromised and we set up the little inflatable pool and the slip n slide. I came inside and not 2 minutes later, big dude had turned off the water and gone and gotten in the neighbor pool and so had Isaac. I usually would have gone to get him out cause I had said no (guess I should have) but I decided to be nice and since Isaac could touch the bottom, I just let them play...for about 45 minutes. Then I said it was time to go. David was on the trampoline so I helped him down and told him it was time to go and he ran and jumped into the pool again. I told him again, "let's go, now!" He got the hose out of the bottom of the pool and proceeded to spray me head to toe with it! All the other kids got quiet. You coulda heard a pin drop. I think even all the overhead helicopters got quiet for that one. I calmly took the hose away and marched him home. We then gave him a talking to about coming when mommy says and not spraying mommy with the hose etc. After dinner, the boys all went out to water the flowers. Daddy came in for a second and when he went back out big dude was in the process of ...I can't bring myself to say it.....ugh...pooping on the sidewalk! What the.....!!!!?!?!??!
So there it is...you tell me.
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"I usually would have gone to get him out cause I had said no (guess I should have) but I decided to be nice and since Isaac could touch the bottom, I just let them play"
Sounds like the problem right here. "No" means "no". Gotta be consistent.
"pooping on the sidewalk!"
Can't help you with that one.
--Frank
He tests me all the time!!! I try to be consistent but how do you pick your battles??! Ugh. I am tired.
I would have made him clean it up off the sidewalk. Not hose it off put getting a bag and picking it up like you'd do for anything else that pooped where it shouldn't.
As for the trying you and pushing you... that's so normal. It's so beyond normal. He get better for awhile and then he'll do it again. He's testing to see if he can predict your behavior. And in all honesty, he'll feel better if he can, which means you have to mean what you say. Because each and every time you say something and don't follow through, he'll get worse.
(((Hugs))) I hope it's better with your honey home.
thanks...good advice.
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